Commitment.

Commitment can be said as the underpinning of a solid relationship. Commitment is exigent. But what commitment really is? To me, it is subjective. It can be delineated and justified in so many distinct ways yet people fail to see that. Commonly people see commitment as what their partners should not do – consistent with their own rules and likings.

So what breaks the “commitment rule”? Merely communicating & associating with the opposite sex? Taking pictures with the opposite sex? Hanging out with the opposite sex? To me, all of that do not symbolise commitment at all. I can comprehend why people might have incongruous outlooks but what I don’t understand is why they are so distressed with the commitment of others and their relationships/partners.

Dedication does not mean letting go of all other aspirations and dreams to focus on one thing (in this case, the relationship). It cleanly means one is proficient in dividing equal time for every aspect and at the same time – things are working out good. Commitment does not mean doing and executing actions/decisions exclusively to make the other party happy (in this case, the partner). It simply means he/she has your best interest at heart and will not do things that he/she thinks will sadden his/her partner.

But like I said, commitment is subjective. It is ambiguous. What seems to be valid/rationale to one person may not look the same for the other person. How do we undertake that? That is for the two individuals to figure out. And what commitment is; is definitely, entirely up to the two individuals together to define.

Long-distance relationships.

Long-distance relationships (or also known as LDR) scare me. What are the chances of one working out and actually have a happy ending? I’ve never been in one and I really don’t intend to. I think it’s a lot of work and probably it is mainly due to my natural habit of not being able to trust a 100% in anyone or anything. The time differences, not being able to see one another for months or sometimes years, the wait. Mostly the wait. The feeling of having to be alone although knowing you’re actually not.

I can’t see myself as a person who could ever place so much faith in a relationship but at the same time wondering if things would stay the same when we reunite, if feelings would remain as strong. Because I truly believe that some feelings – they fade, and some people – they leave. Because let’s be realistic, nothing lasts forever and even if two people can make it to 80 together – death will make them part. But that does not mean we can seize the moment. I truly believe in carpe diem

So you really can’t blame me for not seeing it as something that would last long when the boyfriend and I first got together. I thought to myself that we could make the most out of it and see where it takes us. Boy am I glad the journey took us this far and we’re still going strong. We see each other almost every single day, we’re not bored of the company of each other, we love spending time with one another, we even have a dog together. But if one of us were to leave and we’d have to try to work things out being thousands of miles away – I don’t know. I dare not imagine.

I know that if two people were meant to be together, no matter how bad things go they’d never fall apart. And I do know that if two people are not meant for each other, nothing can be done to force it. So why can’t I let nature work its magic and see what happens? Maybe I’m afraid to take that leap of faith. I don’t usually use the word faith, I think it kinda portrays you as someone weak. Like you need to hold on to something so that you don’t lose your balance in this world? Yeah.

But maybe I just don’t want to take that chance. I like love how things are now and I’d like for them to only get better (according to my own version, that is). However it’s not like our lives only revolves around each other. We’re in a very healthy relationship, I’d say. I mean we have our own time to do the things we like, we meet up with friends and we don’t talk to each other 24/7. Space and self-comfort is well-respected between the two of us and I think that’s important.

It may sound cliche to you but I think I just might have one of the best relationships one can ever get   & hopefully, it only gets better from here!