Being in love with someone, and being in love with the relationship is two very different things. Some even say loving and being in love – are already like chalk and cheese. I know a lot of people whom I think deserve a whole lot better than what they’re getting (in terms of relationships) yet they find it necessary to settle for something/someone they think is already good enough. They just don’t know it yet, that they should be searching or wanting for the better.
Some fear they would never find another, while others worry if they will ever be in a relationship again. Those two statements are like myths, they will never happen. Because I truly believe that if you can find someone who loves you for who you are, there will be others. And someone loving you unconditionally does not necessarily mean he/she is good for you. Because there are many other underlying factors that contribute to a healthy and strong relationship; it does not rely solely on one or two aspects.
And I think that’s where people are misunderstood. He/she is nice to you is not really a valid reason why you should be with that person. Of course, some may contend that love does not need a reason. But this is reality and there isn’t a happily ever after. Yes, truth hurts. And I’m not saying so because I’m unhappy or I’ve been through hell with boys/men, in fact, far from that. But I just think that it’s very naive and assuming of us if we were to lay it down to only one quality. Because anyone can be nice to us, anyone could be willing to go through tough times for us.
What we should be wanting is someone who has the whole package, if you get what I’m trying to say. I understand that no single person is perfect and that we should accept others as they are which includes their flaws and weaknesses. I also realise that there isn’t such thing as the perfect one. However if at all you are unhappy or dissatisfied with the person you are with, it’s either something has to change – or the relationship has to end. Because there is no way in hell you can just suppress all those unhappiness and live like nothing’s wrong for the rest of your life. No one should ever have to go through that, being unhappy.
I think the million dollar question is: Am I happy? Or, will I be happy with him/her?
And I believe no one can answer that question but yourself.
