If you are in a relationship and you find someone else attractive, discovering this urge in you wanting to get to know that person better – do you call that emotional cheating? If you asked me several years ago I would’ve probably answered yes. But with the little experience and eye-opening theories that I have flooded myself with within the years, right now I’d say no.
Human emotions and feelings are complicated and they can’t be pinpointed down to just one explanation. It is human nature to be attracted to pretty things, in this case, people. However it does not necessarily have to be something negative. I guess I can consider myself being in a long-term relationship right now, and I dare say I have found other boys good looking – even wanting to get to know them better.
With that being said, it does not in any way reflect that my love and “commitment” have somehow reduced for my partner. I don’t think being committed means you do not associate with people whom you think might jeopardise your relationship and it certainly does not mean you have to stop meeting new people who might or might not impose some sort of risk on the bond you currently share with your partner.
Honestly speaking, boys are easy to read in my perspective. One look at my boyfriend’s facial expression or body language, even, and I can tell if he finds another girl attractive or not. Does it bother me? I can truthfully say, no. I’ve learned that it is not wrong for a person to “check someone out”. Have a little tiny harmless crush even, is really nothing to make a big fuss out of. I mean, I think one ought to be worried if the person they are with has no attraction of any sort towards anyone at all.
Many people I know “forbid” their partners from doing so but when it comes to themselves, they have this kind of confidence that they can do so without letting things cross the line therefore they’re allowed to do so. Well, that just shows how little trust you have in your man and frankly speaking, yourself too. After all you’re the one who chose to be with this person whom you can’t keep your eyes off just for a minute for fear he/she might run off with another person.
I’m guessing most people are afraid of the possibility of their partners finding someone else whom they can relate to better and end the relationship after doing so. I always say there’s no point in keeping things that are not meant to be. If that’s what you are afraid of then I reckon you are going to prevent your partner from making new friends for the rest of his/her life? Just how does someone plan on doing something like that?
I think you can say it’s a win-win situation. If your partner eyes other people yet comes back to you at the end of the day, you can be assured what the two of you have is genuine. If it happens to be the opposite of that, then you get to find out you’re not with the right person. Either way, there really isn’t any loss.
