Letting go is easy, it’s moving on that is painful. So sometimes we try to fight it, try to keep things the same. Things can’t stay the same though. At some point you just have to let go, move on. Because no matter how painful it is, it’s the only way we grow.
Quotes
There must be a reason why.
Three passions, simple but overwhelmingly strong,
have governed my life: the longing for love,
the search for knowledge, and unbearable pity
for the suffering of mankind.
Bertrand Russell
We do not need to visit an asylum to see psychopathology;
it will be found in our daily activities.
Sigmund Freud
A mature relationship is one in which each party assumes
responsibility for her/his individuation,
& supports the other in hers/his as well.
Why Good People Do Bad Things by James Hollis
It is how you define it.
People say they “find”love, as if it were an object hidden by a rock. But love takes many forms, and it is never the same for any man and woman. What people find then is a certain love.
Love, like rain, can nourish from above, drenching couples with a soaking joy. But sometimes, under the angry heat of life, love dries on the surface and must nourish from below, tending to its roots, keeping itself alive.
(The Five People You Meet in Heaven, Mitch Albom)
Have a little faith, part 4.
I used to think I knew everything. I was a “smart person” who “got things done”, and because of that the higher I climb the more I could look down and scoff at what seemed silly or simple, even religion.
But I realised something as I drove home that night: that I am neither better nor smarter, only luckier. And I should be ashamed of thinking I knew everything, because you can know the whole world and still feel lost in it.
So many people are in pain – no matter how smart or accomplished – they cry, they yearn, they hurt. But instead of looking down on things, they look up, which is where I should have been looking, too. Because when the world quiets to the sound of your own breathing, we all want the same things: comfort, love, and a peaceful heart.
(Mitch Albom)
Have a little faith, part 3.
Have you ever wondered how the same things in life can be good or evil, depending on what, with free will, we do with them.
Speech can bless or curse. Money can save or destroy. Science can heal or kill. Even nature can work for you or against you; fire can warm or burn; water can sustain life or flood it away.
We have this piece of divinity inside us, but with this thing called free will, hence the world is in our hands.
(Mitch Albom)
Have a little faith, part 2.
I walked a mile with Pleasure; she chatted all the way; but left me none the wiser for all she had to say.
I walked a mile with Sorrow; and ne’er a word said she; but oh! The things I learned from her, when Sorrow walked with me.
-Robert Browning Hamilton
(Mitch Albom)
Have a little faith.
I think people expect too much from marriage today. They expect perfection. Every moment should be bliss. That’s TV or movies. But that is not the human experience.
Twenty good minutes here, forty good minutes there, it adds up to something beautiful. The trick is when things aren’t so great, you don’t junk the whole thing. It’s okay to have an argument. It’s okay that the other one nudges you a little, bothers you a little.
It’s part of being close to someone.
But the joy you get from that same closeness – when you wake up and smile at each other – that, as our tradition teaches us, is a blessing. People forget that.
Because the word “commitment” has lost its meaning. Now a commitment is something you avoid. You don’t want to tie yourself down.
When you don’t commit, you miss what’s on the other side.
What’s on the other side?
Ah, a happiness you cannot find alone.
(Mitch Albom)
