Things are never just black and white.

Photo by Jan

Things are never just black and white.

Not now, not when you want them to be, not ever.

When you feel asphyxiated, just reach for that oxygen tank.
Because there is always a way out.

Because it’s not about being tough all the time.

It’s about realising that you’ve had enough,

and knowing when it’s finally time to stop.

Because there are two ways to enter the final chamber, free or not free. The choice is ours.

It was more than words, more than pictures could ever capture
A piece of love so difficult to discover, a song so rare with the perfect melody

That’s what I felt the moment I laid my eyes on you.

Whatever you need is next to you all along, you just need to realise that.
What makes you feel whole, what makes you feel absolute?
Will we ever find something so flawless, so complete that life itself would envy us?
Live a charmed life where others are enchanted by the voice of you
And remember, no regrets when you look back.Because there are two ways to enter the final chamber, free or not free. The choice is ours.

And to be free, it is a lifelong process.

Photo by Jessie

The truth will always prevail?

My mind can be fickled and my heart may be capricious

I truly believe that things are never as they seem

yet it seems too demanding for people to see the veracity in them.

I’ve induced myself enough that someday,

they are going to finally realise what a lie it has all been

And how the truth could really set them free

It could set all of us free.

Never judge a book by its cover

Do not do unto others what you do not want others do unto you

You always say but you don’t do.

The pinch is felt when it falls on you and only when it comes to you.

The world doesn’t gyrate around a single individual

And frankly speaking, nothing really keeps the world going

Except egocentricity.

Call me ignorant, call me arrogant

But they don’t disturb me anymore

Because I’m too much for anyone to handle.

I’m never too proud to lose neither am I too timorous to speak out

Yet there are some things that are meant to wilt in time

Because nothing can be concealed forever

And truth will always prevail.

Yeah?

Timing.

Timing. It all comes down to timing.
An hour early, you might not have bumped into the person who has influenced you the most.
A minute late, you would have missed your train.
One second in difference could change your entire life.
How do we know what we have missed?
If only we all knew what we can chase after & what we could avoid.
Would life be more entertaining that way,
or would it be less exciting?

Pregnancy & babies.

So many cases of babies being dumped and abandoned these days, makes you wonder what happened to the world and the people of today? What’s going to happen to the children of tomorrow? How many of them are going to grow up in orphanages without having a feel of warm love, with a bleak future ahead of them? And coming to terms that they had no option from the very beginning, the moment they stepped foot into this world.

Baby dumping has been scoring headlines in newspapers and the people “in charge” believe that the blame is to be placed on the mother. Have you ever stopped for a second and ponder, what made them do so to begin with? Most cases – if not all, are the result of premarital sex and unwanted pregnancies. Sex is such a taboo topic in our upbringing that people are so ashamed of buying condoms or to provide sex education to the younger generation.

You can’t curb premarital sex effectively, so what can be done is to educate the young before they make the mistake of getting pregnant out of wedlock which leads to babies being thrown away like rubbish. Back to the point where people only blame the mother of the child. What about the father who is supposed to take responsibility for his actions? It is just like a hit and run, it is wrong. Females do not get pregnant and give birth within the snap of a finger so it is unfair to charge only the mothers with murder.

How many of the mothers have been located and charged? How many more dead babies will it take to make them see the bigger picture? The bigger picture is to offer shelter to young, unmarried mothers. To provide care and love to babies that are to be given up for adoption. There are plenty of childless people out there who dream of having a child of their own and would be ever so willing to make these children theirs. If there is a place that will protect babies, people will not resort to killing and dumping them. This will certainly help reduce the number of casualties.

You can see campaigns for AIDS and cancer being carried out widely and openly but not for campaigns to encourage safe sex. You can’t be knocking on every door in the country to catch those who practise premarital sex (of course only Muslims can be charged according to the Islamic law). It is like calling out to the obese to stop eating altogether to lose weight, if you’re asking teenagers not to have sex to prevent unplanned pregnancies. It just doesn’t work that way.Some of you may think that if they have not had had sex in the beginning nothing would have happened. And you might also think that they brought it upon themselves hence they do not deserve sympathy or help. That’s not the point. We all need to get that kind of mentality out of our systems because it is self-destructive. What’s important is to make the situation better, not ignore it because things will only get worse and when it gets out of hand it’s going to be more difficult to handle.

It will not be easy to stop unwanted pregnancies but it is only logic to provide help and support for those in need so that they will know that they are not alone. Most people throw babies away out of desperation and fear, what will their parents do when they find out? What would others think of them for doing such a “shameful” thing? They panic and they do not know what to do once the baby is born. Since abortion is illegal some don’t see it as an option and although it can be done at several places, it would cost a bomb therefore leading to this heinous action.

What’s right is that we do not shun them from the society but instead help to improve the situation. And by denouncing them is certainly not one of the ideal options. It’s going to take more than one to make this world a better place, to make a difference. People make mistakes and it is important that they learn from these mistakes to be a better person. What it takes is for others to give them a chance because nothing is so bad that it will never get better.

Sometimes there is no right or wrong.

Most people I know – they get all fired up when others try to tell them what to do. If right or wrong is to be determined according to the decisions of others, they call it ridiculous. Everyone believes that when it comes to their own lives, they have the right to do things their way without having to explain themselves. Human rights after all. I am one of them who strongly believe in self rights. True that no matter what, at the end of the day we do not need to justify ourselves to anybody at all.

I see many interracial relationships these days and I’m not ashamed to say I’m in one myself. Again, who do we need approval from? No one. Love is something that should not be restricted by barriers such as race, religion, status, etc. Sometimes you find it at the most bizarre places, with the most extraordinary people. Who’s to say a relationship has to be based on a set of standards as referral? Who’s to say there is right and wrong, black and white when it comes to love?

Which is why I do not understand why people can see the sense in what I’ve mentioned above but they can’t do the same when it comes to same-sex relationships or gay rights. First of all, whoever said that love must involve one female and one male? Secondly, why can’t they too be happy with the person they love but instead they have to seek legal approvals as well as the public’s recognition to be able to express and be in love openly?

When gay rights are approved in a country, protests are made not only in the country but worldwide as well. The question remains, why? What does it have to do with you? Why must there be a law that allows them to practise free love in the first place? And what harm does it do you, when other people are given the same rights as you to fall in love? Just because most people are attracted to the opposite sex, those who are not are deemed abnormal. It is just like eating fish. Most people eat fish. If you don’t, does it make you abnormal? No it doesn’t. It just means you’re not into fish. It’s as simple as that.

I came across a video of certain idiots condemning gay people by stating what they do and what sort of sexual intercourse they conduct. Seriously people, in this whole wide world you actually think only the gays do it? And really, so what? I don’t see what the problem is. Because there is no problem. What is your problem with them actually? And gay people are not bad people. There are so many far worst types of people out there and you’re talking about people who find happiness with the same sex?

Why come up with all the fuss to attack them? Why are they called gay in the first place? The only difference is that we have different interests, that’s all. It’s just like how we don’t like the same colours, or the same type of sports, or the same food for that matter. And the most important point is that it really has nothing to do with anyone else but the two people who are involved. Everybody is being such a busybody and I don’t see what they get out of it.

The next time you come across people who are in a same-sex relationship, don’t stare. Don’t give dirty looks. Don’t judge. Don’t compare them to others. Don’t gossip. Because those two people whom you think are “abnormal”, they’re just two people who have found someone they love. Why can’t you just be happy for them and mind your own business?

Love.

Just an affectionate reminder, love.